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When I learned it was the thoughts I was choosing to think that were holding me back from happiness and success, it hit me like a truck! Instead of using my words and thoughts to create what I wanted, I was doing the opposite. I used to be the queen of self sabotage!

Big thinking literally fuelled my ability to succeed. Thinking Big helped to build my confidence and get rid of the lies and excuses I had been telling myself. It can do the same for you. Big thinking motivates you to form habits of action and enables you to create who you want to be. By learning to think bigger you can really turn defeat into triumph.

Learning how to think BIG literally changed the course of my future!

The information I’m going to share with you may challenge the way you are thinking right now - I want you to understand how your thoughts can be improved upon to serve you so much more!

First: humans think in images

The first thing that made a huge difference for me was when I understood that humans don’t think in words and sentences. We think in images. And those images then create the feelings and emotions we experience. We then articulate those pictures and feelings into words, which is how we communicate them, then others can understand us. But the initial impulses in our brains and nervous system are images - followed closely by feelings or emotions.

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In our own thought processes the words we say to ourselves will influence the pictures that we create in our mind. And when we speak those words out loud, or type them, or write them, or text them, we’re also communicating with ourselves, with our unconscious mind as well as the people around us.

Our thinking has a huge effect and powerful influence on what we do or don’t achieve. And how others interact with us as well.

Second: whatever you focus on increases

The second epiphany came when I was taught that whatever you think about and focus on increases. So if you’re looking at all the ways something is not going to work - that’s exactly what you’ll get. If you’re looking for all the reasons why something won’t work, that’s exactly what you’ll find! So if you start saying and thinking about all the ways something WILL work - you will find exactly that!

It’s not about denying things when things are bad - it’s about recognising very quickly when things aren’t the way you want them to be and dealing with it as constructively as possible. I want to make it clear that it’s not about saying when it’s raining “It’s not raining, it’s not raining, it’s not raining!” You have to accept that it’s raining so you can grab your umbrella and clothing that will protect you. Be aware of what the situation is but focus on what you want. The solution is never where the problem is.

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Like most of us, I find it easy to use BIG THINKING when things are great but it’s most useful to me when things aren’t going so well. Like when I am at the edge of my comfort zone.

It’s easy to go down the old worn path of complaining, of stopping or shutting myself down. I have literally had to train myself to think differently and consequently my life has changed for the better. Big thinking does require effort before it becomes a habit, but it is so worth it!

How to Start

The way to start is to notice when your thinking is small and non productive. Just notice it but don’t engage with it. Actively choose a more resourceful thought that will get you closer to the results you want instead. A thought that will make you FEEL better.

I am consciously practicing this stuff every day. It does get easier with practice. The negative thoughts do come less frequently and you find yourself noticing them straight away. The trick is to replace the negative thoughts immediately with their positive opposite.

Every time you choose a new thought you’re creating new pathways in your brain. The more you build your neural networks with new, more resourceful, bigger ways of thinking, you strengthen the pathways in your brain. Eventually it becomes automatic to use big thinking.

Describing how you feel

Ask any Australian how they are and they will most probably reply with one of the following statements, “Yeah, alright”, “Yeah, not bad” OR “Can’t complain”. If we’re thinking in pictures and understand that the brain cannot process no, not, never, when we reply with ‘not bad’, what we’re actually saying is we are BAD.

I found that I used to minimise how good I felt in case it was going to be threatening to other people. I’ve totally changed my mind about that and now embrace what is good in my life. And believe me, positivity is contagious! I now genuinely reply with “I’m great!” or “I am fantastic! Thanks for asking. How are you?”

Your greeting at the beginning of every interaction sets up your expectation of how that interaction is going to be.

It’s great to challenge what the world expects as a normal answer. It comes down to asking yourself what sort of reality you want to create? Do you want to create a ‘yeah, I’m ok’ kind of day, OR do you want to have a ‘yeah, I am fantastic!’ kind of day? It’s literally a choice. The emotion behind the comment has weight as well.

Using big positive words to describe other people

Unfavourable words and comments have a negative effect on us and the other people at a quantum level. The unconscious mind doesn’t know who you are actually speaking about when you bitch and moan about others - it takes everything you say as a command and doesn’t know that you’re not actually talking about yourself. It takes it all personally.

I guarantee that you will feel good when you create and generate great outcomes for yourself and others around you. It doesn’t have to be left to chance or habit.

This is not about covering things up with ‘rose coloured glasses’ or not admitting the truth. It’s simply choosing to focus on how you want things to be and what the opportunities are instead of always looking at what the negatives are and what all the possible drawbacks to a situation might be.

Our minds create our reality and it is so important to be hyper aware of our language.

So here are three tips to thinking bigger.

  1. Start using the kind of vocabulary that creates large positive images in your mind instead of vocabulary that creates small negative images.
  2. When you describe how you feel, make sure you use big positive, cheerful words.
  3. Use bright, cheerful, positive words to describe and encourage other people.

Consciously practice every day. Catch yourself thinking negatively and actively choose something different. You will feel differently!

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